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GAMES FOR UNATTRACTED COUPLES – INTRODUCTION

Sometimes husbands and wives, as well as couples who have been together for a long time, begin to lose not only their sexual desire but also their sexual attraction. They come to find certain physical features or personality traits unappealing, ugly, or downright repulsive—and they often dwell on these aversive elements and use them as excuses to avoid sex. A bald head or protruding belly or double chin can be the turnoff, or it can be the way a spouse chews gum or laughs or smells. One of my patients had a habit of making a frog sound with her throat each morning before waking up and each night before going to sleep. She had learned this from her mother, who had no doubt learned it from hers. Her husband complained in vain about how unappealing this sound was.

Despite the popular notion that sexual attraction is based mostly on physical attributes, it is in actuality a complex phenomenon made up of many layers. One layer—the most obvious and most conscious one—is the physical appearance of the sexual object. We see a well-proportioned woman in a bikini or muscular man in a loose tunic, and we are immediately attracted. But once a relationship begins (and particularly when it is in its middle stages), physical appearance becomes the least important factor of sexual attraction, while personality and transference become crucial.

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